2007-08-25

Happiness and Sadness - Update I

It occurred to me, as if by a flash of wisdom, that "happiness is transient"; and "sadness is enduring".

PS:

1. This is not about my state of things or feelings.
2. This is what I felt or said it as I was speaking to my wife about life. Think about something that made you happy; how long did it keep you happy? Think about something that makes you sad; how long does it keep you sad?
3. People may not agree with me. Fine.
4. It is difficult, almost bordering on absurd. But if I were to do an expected value of happiness & sadness, the results will not be different from what I felt.
5. I was reading some work which was reaffirming what I had felt.
Two Israeli psychologists, Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky, have done path-breaking research on human behavior /(ir)rationality......I quote Tversky
"Probably the most significant and pervasive characteristic of the human pleasure machine is that people is that people are much more sensitive to negative than positive stimuli....Think about how well you feel today, and then try to imagine how much better you could feel.....There are a few things that would make you feel better, but the number of things that would make you feel worse is unbounded."

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hello,

I've read your blog in the past and think it's solid and informative. There is one thing that really jumps at me and that is the relationship you have with your boss. You wrote a very positive post about him a long time ago, and eventually went back to work for him. You also explained clearly why you respected and admired him as a professional and otherwise.

Could you tell me if: a) Have you encounter in your career a manager that had "issues" and was borderline poor? b) Have you had subordinates that you wish were better at their job? c) What have you done in these cases?

Thanks much in advance for your comments, and congrats on a wonderful career.

--Harish

Ford Prefect said...

Yeah .. I would also like to know the answers to these questions ...

Thanks- Ford

Raghu said...

Happiness is an interval between two sad moments. Neither happiness or sadness is perpetual

itheabsolute said...

Hi Harish

Thanks for being a regular reader of the blog.

do not want to discuss the gory details of my poor manager and my not so good colleagues online. suffice to say that i did have a boss who had issues and relatively poor; colleagues that have a long way to go. i think the way to handle each of these people or situations is not templatable. i believe in customizing the approach according to the person / context.

thanks

itheabsolute said...

Hi Ford

My answers above, and not sure if it answers.

thanks

itheabsolute said...

raghu

again, we wud differ here. what i wrote is what i felt......

Debashis said...

Hi Vijay-

I just stumbled upon your blog and posts therein. Very very genuine and powerful yet lucid style of writing you have. Yet to read all your posts. I have bookmarked your page. Do keep writing. Nice day ahead.

Debashis

Ravi Ivaturi said...

Vijay- Any reason why you felt what you felt?

Ravi

itheabsolute said...

Ravi

I have posted some clarifications. Happiness derived out of things that usually make us happy is short-lived; sadness (or even sorrow) from things that usually make us so is lingering....

How is life? Trust u r having good time at work and in personal life

cheers

Ravi Ivaturi said...

Thanks Vijay.

Life is good,presently. Do visit my blog sometime :)

Ravi

Abhinav said...

just wondering what wud happen if happiness becomes enduring !!
world's GDP may go down as an immediate consequence and so might the productivity in every sphere of life :)

Raghu said...

We are both right, Vijay. Everyone has moments of joy and sorrow. But as you rightly pointed out, we forget our happy moments and sad thoughts linger on. So in that happiness is transient and sorrow is enduring.

Niranjan said...

You just defined the reality of life.
1. Happiness is an apex. and short lived
2. Sad is the valley which is wide and enduring.
3. We can easily fall into valley the sooner we reach the apex.
4. added cushion with family this condition stabilizes even if u plan to forget the bad things/sad things that happen to our life.

2007-08-25

Happiness and Sadness - Update I

It occurred to me, as if by a flash of wisdom, that "happiness is transient"; and "sadness is enduring".

PS:

1. This is not about my state of things or feelings.
2. This is what I felt or said it as I was speaking to my wife about life. Think about something that made you happy; how long did it keep you happy? Think about something that makes you sad; how long does it keep you sad?
3. People may not agree with me. Fine.
4. It is difficult, almost bordering on absurd. But if I were to do an expected value of happiness & sadness, the results will not be different from what I felt.
5. I was reading some work which was reaffirming what I had felt.
Two Israeli psychologists, Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky, have done path-breaking research on human behavior /(ir)rationality......I quote Tversky
"Probably the most significant and pervasive characteristic of the human pleasure machine is that people is that people are much more sensitive to negative than positive stimuli....Think about how well you feel today, and then try to imagine how much better you could feel.....There are a few things that would make you feel better, but the number of things that would make you feel worse is unbounded."

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hello,

I've read your blog in the past and think it's solid and informative. There is one thing that really jumps at me and that is the relationship you have with your boss. You wrote a very positive post about him a long time ago, and eventually went back to work for him. You also explained clearly why you respected and admired him as a professional and otherwise.

Could you tell me if: a) Have you encounter in your career a manager that had "issues" and was borderline poor? b) Have you had subordinates that you wish were better at their job? c) What have you done in these cases?

Thanks much in advance for your comments, and congrats on a wonderful career.

--Harish

Ford Prefect said...

Yeah .. I would also like to know the answers to these questions ...

Thanks- Ford

Raghu said...

Happiness is an interval between two sad moments. Neither happiness or sadness is perpetual

itheabsolute said...

Hi Harish

Thanks for being a regular reader of the blog.

do not want to discuss the gory details of my poor manager and my not so good colleagues online. suffice to say that i did have a boss who had issues and relatively poor; colleagues that have a long way to go. i think the way to handle each of these people or situations is not templatable. i believe in customizing the approach according to the person / context.

thanks

itheabsolute said...

Hi Ford

My answers above, and not sure if it answers.

thanks

itheabsolute said...

raghu

again, we wud differ here. what i wrote is what i felt......

Debashis said...

Hi Vijay-

I just stumbled upon your blog and posts therein. Very very genuine and powerful yet lucid style of writing you have. Yet to read all your posts. I have bookmarked your page. Do keep writing. Nice day ahead.

Debashis

Ravi Ivaturi said...

Vijay- Any reason why you felt what you felt?

Ravi

itheabsolute said...

Ravi

I have posted some clarifications. Happiness derived out of things that usually make us happy is short-lived; sadness (or even sorrow) from things that usually make us so is lingering....

How is life? Trust u r having good time at work and in personal life

cheers

Ravi Ivaturi said...

Thanks Vijay.

Life is good,presently. Do visit my blog sometime :)

Ravi

Abhinav said...

just wondering what wud happen if happiness becomes enduring !!
world's GDP may go down as an immediate consequence and so might the productivity in every sphere of life :)

Raghu said...

We are both right, Vijay. Everyone has moments of joy and sorrow. But as you rightly pointed out, we forget our happy moments and sad thoughts linger on. So in that happiness is transient and sorrow is enduring.

Niranjan said...

You just defined the reality of life.
1. Happiness is an apex. and short lived
2. Sad is the valley which is wide and enduring.
3. We can easily fall into valley the sooner we reach the apex.
4. added cushion with family this condition stabilizes even if u plan to forget the bad things/sad things that happen to our life.