2017-04-01

I Can't Do

Another pop-psychology topic is to push people into thinking "I can do".

No.

I am scared of large of tracts water - I can't swim in a sea. I am fine with it. I don't want to be told I can do it. I can't. I could not care if I did this either.

There is too much of pressure to believe that 'we can' do stuff.

I can't do complex math. My mind just doesn't work. Explains my low scores at ISB. I am fine with it as well. I hate it if someone told me I have to believe myself into solving complex math problems. Even if I believed I can, I cannot. Belief many times has little to do with reality. Pushing people into "I can do" thinking creates huge chasm between what they believe they can be and what they actually are, resulting in avoidable misery.

I am not advocating taking things as they are. Choosing to learn and expand my horizons is a learning process. This should be. But knowing how much I can know and do is the most important of the lessons I can learn. Else, because of this ' I can' thinking, I will keep responding to what people or society thinks I should be.

I am also a big believer of free will - circumstances happen (so called fate); we respond (how we respond is free will). Free will does not mean I am a super man and can overcome all my limitations. It only means my ability to make a choice, including my choice to learn things to improve myself. Most times, the choices I make are limited by my ability - knowing this and operating within this is my free will.

Need for external endorsement of me should never drive my behavior - which is at the core of "I can do" thinking. Learning to let go. Knowing where to draw a line and say " I can't". Not persisting forever because I started something. All these essential to resist this "I can do" syndrome.


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2017-04-01

I Can't Do

Another pop-psychology topic is to push people into thinking "I can do".

No.

I am scared of large of tracts water - I can't swim in a sea. I am fine with it. I don't want to be told I can do it. I can't. I could not care if I did this either.

There is too much of pressure to believe that 'we can' do stuff.

I can't do complex math. My mind just doesn't work. Explains my low scores at ISB. I am fine with it as well. I hate it if someone told me I have to believe myself into solving complex math problems. Even if I believed I can, I cannot. Belief many times has little to do with reality. Pushing people into "I can do" thinking creates huge chasm between what they believe they can be and what they actually are, resulting in avoidable misery.

I am not advocating taking things as they are. Choosing to learn and expand my horizons is a learning process. This should be. But knowing how much I can know and do is the most important of the lessons I can learn. Else, because of this ' I can' thinking, I will keep responding to what people or society thinks I should be.

I am also a big believer of free will - circumstances happen (so called fate); we respond (how we respond is free will). Free will does not mean I am a super man and can overcome all my limitations. It only means my ability to make a choice, including my choice to learn things to improve myself. Most times, the choices I make are limited by my ability - knowing this and operating within this is my free will.

Need for external endorsement of me should never drive my behavior - which is at the core of "I can do" thinking. Learning to let go. Knowing where to draw a line and say " I can't". Not persisting forever because I started something. All these essential to resist this "I can do" syndrome.


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